New Year new leaf

For as much as I hate being single on New Year's eve I really do love the idea of making resolutions, re-evaluating my life and a general sense of "newness" to things. For example, I've been slacking off on my dating quest and that has got to change. After January 1 I'm going to take new steps in meeting potential dates. I will make a new effort to put myself out there and at the very least hang out at a cafe or museum more often. I read that Seattle is one of the best places to be single because there are so many coffee shops to meet people. Coffee shops are the new night clubs of the singles scene.

Oh yeah, I'm also resolving to become better at money management.

Holiday in Singlesville

Nothing much has been happening in the romance department lately (I never did get an e-mail from McCutey) but with the holidays looming I'm ok with that.

I've taken a break from on-line dating. I hadn't tried it for very long so *maybe* I'm just being a little impatient but so far the results have been fruitful only in a sense that I've gotten a lot of funny material for this blog. I'm happy to provide my friends and strangers with comic relief but I honestly do want to find someone to settle down with. Are the odds any better that I'll meet Mr. Right on an on-line dating service versus the bars or going to parties? I've already asked all of my friends to set me up but so far they've been useless. I do volunteer work but the organization I work for consists of mostly women and the guys I've met volunteering are either married, spoken for, or utterly undesirable.

Where oh where can I meet single men?

Waiting for McCutey

On Wednesday it seemed as if my zen-like patience had rewarded me. My friend M. sent me an e-mail telling me that not more than five minutes ago he got an e-mail from McCutey (the one I met at the party that didn't ask for my number) requesting my e-mail address. By all means I said, please give it to him. So now, three days later, still no e-mail. Will McCutey send a message or will I hang in perpetual dating limbo? Stay tuned.

The Odd Triumph

Saturday night found me at a fabulous party hosted by some fabulous friends all connected to the media - mostly film makers. It was one of those parties that made you feel comfortable enough to approach anyone you didn't know without fear of appearing like a freak. This is Minnesota. People just don't normally do that.

I spied a very cute guy standing alone and after checking for a ring decided I was interested however on this occasion I thought it would be prudent to follow The Rules and wrangle a more formal introduction rather than approaching him alone. As luck would have it the first person I grabbed (Mark) just happened to know who this McCutey was, assured me that he was single and made the introductions.

The rest of the night McCutey and I talked, laughed and flirted but he didn't ask me for my number! The old me would have offered it to him without his asking or worse I would have asked him for his number but not this time. As I was leaving the party I simply told him I enjoyed meeting him which gave him one more opportunity to ask - but he didn't. In an odd way I feel triumphant. I played by The Rules and in doing so kept my dignity and morals intact. If there is one thing I've learned about men and dating it's this; If he doesn't ask you for your number there is usually a very good reason for it.

Love Letters from Illiterates

Here, for your amusement are e-mails sent to me from an on-line dating service. This is not for the faint of heart, many crimes against punctuation and grammar have been committed. These eager potential paramours will hopefully teach others how NOT to make a first impression. Note that these messages are exactly as I received them. I only X'ed out the e-mail addresses and phone numbers to protect the not-so-innocent.

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Have they run out of women in Utah that he needs to seek women in Minnesota and beyond???


hello,I am keith,42 years old from Ogden Utah,how are you,i found your profile on match,i really got impressed cause i really like it and i will like to to know more about you and hook up myself with you as good friend with each other,cos i believe frienship could lead to relationship.

In my world, I walked to a different drum.i want you to come to my life and joined me in my journey.i want to be in harmony and and at peace in the world of love,If it's the thought that counts you can always count on me.Please be my Valentine,When two souls, that have shed their loneliness, embrace and melt into one; from out of loneliness, love is born. i will love to hear from you again.
thanks
keith XXXXX.


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And here's one from a very confident guy who has no idea that saying "tickle in my tummy" is really, really gay.



Synchronicity..How are you? Your description and photo truly gave me a sublime tickle in my tummy! You are an alluringly beautiful and fascinating woman.

I'm happy to have found your add I'm an artist/ entrepreneur who lives and works in a house in Driggs, Idaho, near Jackson Hole with a great view of the Tetons through giant picture windows.....so much beauty and no one to share it with! The other part of the time I time in a loft on the East River on the Brooklyn waterfront in NY with a great view of the NYC sky line.

If you're interested, my art site is: XXXXXXXXX

I would really like the opportunity to know you!
Greg


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This little fella apparently has me confused with a phone sex operator...



Hi I read your profile, and I found you attractive, sexy and provocative. I will like to know more about you, meet you, and see what future there is for both of us. If you are interested I am sincerely open for a friendly call at 952-XXX-XXXX Marcos....




Man, some people just shouldn't date on-line.