Memorials - The New Pick Up Spots?

My friend's mother passed away on Christmas following a long battle with cancer. Being a sympathy crier I'm not good with death stuff (well who is?) but I felt that it was important to show my support and be strong for my dear friend. The memorial was several days later and instead of a formal service it felt more like a slightly eerie if not festive holiday party. There was the ubiquitous sugar cookies, fudge, ripe brie, hot dish and of course lots of wine and beer. It was held at her mother's house and as a testament to her character it was full of friends and family.

Now...I'm sure that Emily Post would turn over in her grave but the moment I walked in I couldn't help noticing this very cute guy standing by the stairs. "Is it so wrong to scope out a memorial?" I asked myself. "Is it inappropriate to flirt?" I lingered long enough to make sure I was seen and dutifully made my rounds reminding myself why I was there. Later that evening, after a couple glasses of wine, I quietly asked my friend's husband who the handsome dish of man-meat was. You can imagine my disappointment to learn that he played on a "different team". Ah yes, not only was I pointlessly flirting with a guy who already had a boyfriend (who also happened to be quite handsome - isn't it always like that?) I also risked offending my friend with my inappropriate timing. Hopefully, this will go down as a lesson learned and uh, forgiven?